Life lately: Leaving Big City Life and my Goals for 2018

It’s time for a fresh start. And not just because it’s the new year. We have decided to pack up our big city life in Cape Town (well, it’s a biggish city, anyway) and move back to the winelands.

While I am incredibly excited about this new chapter, I’ll admit to being a bit heartbroken when we loaded the last boxes and locked up our apartment. The city had been my home for nearly seven years, and our flat was the first official home my husband and I shared.

Seven years on, I feel I had just gotten my bearings in the city. I had finally found my favourite coffee shop (Deluxe on Kloof, and yes, breaking up with my barista was devastating). I finally knew where to get the best Greek Food (Mykonos Taverna), the best pizza (Bacini’s) and the best Poké (The Poké Co). I will sorely miss Sunday sunsets on the promenade and sunrise hikes up Lion’s Head. The vibrant mix of culture. The creativity.

So why move? I knew in my heart the time was right for a shift. The pace in the city was getting to me, never mind the traffic (road rage is problem, yoh). I felt more anxious, less focussed and always way too busy – even when I wasn’t. When we made the decision to move, it just sat right. Trust your gut and all that.

And that was that. We have officially packed up shop and are now working from Stellenbosch, which is a hop from Cape Town (though if you live in either Cape Town or Stellenbosch you’ll know that locals feel it’s soooo far to drive). I am still going to do my best to stay on top news from the city but I am also really excited to be covering more from the winelands and countryside.

Since it is a new year, I also felt it apt to jot down a couple of goals (okay fine, resolutions) that I’m aiming to achieve. I tossed over whether I should make a list this year – it’s such a cliché – but then I read that writing down and sharing your goals increases the likelihood of success. So here goes.

My 2018 New Year’s Resolutions

Say no so I can say yes.

Saying yes to everything can be crippling. I want to be everywhere, do everything, please everyone. In the end, however, it steals all my time, energy and motivation. Saying no to certain things will allow me to say yes to others, allowing me to focus on what really aligns with my passions, values and what I think will be interesting to you.

Spend more time in nature

One great plus about living in the winelands is the multitude of hiking trails at your back door. This year I would love to spend as much time as possible in nature, which always helps me to think, refocus and find perspective.

Be kinder to myself

I am by far my harshest critic. This year I would like to give myself more grace. Our minds are powerful and I believe it is essential that we train our brains to be self-loving. We need to set realistic goals, offer ourselves constructive criticism along with compliments. We need to reward success. And we have to give ourselves mental hugs from time to time.

Be kinder to others

We don’t know what other people are going through. We don’t know their journey, their stories, their struggles. In this business, we often only see and judge people based on a polished Instagram feed. It’s not real. Real people all have shit to deal with and we should be careful not to add to that. I hope that this year I can be kind, always.

Be kinder to nature

This year I want to work harder to reduce my impact on the environment. This means cutting out plastic waste, eating less meat, and making sure I shop sustainably and ethically.

Practice gratitude

I fall off the wagon now and then, but practicing gratitude on a daily basis is really powerful tool to improving life. It changes the way I tackle a day, talk to people, navigate challenges and complete tasks. I think there is value in keeping a journal and write points down, ink on paper, but even listing things in my head while I’m going for a stroll or doing yoga makes all the difference.

Live in the simple joys

Having lunch with friends. Cracking open a new notebook. Taking the first sip of coffee. Listening to a good song. Let’s take time to live within those moments.

I hope your 2018 is filled with joy, exciting challenges, positive change and moments that will grow your soul. Let’s choose to make it a good one.

What are your resolutions for the new year? Pop them in the comments below, I would love to hear from you.

4 Comments

  1. Yolandi North January 13, 2018 at 2:34 am

    Very cool. Good luck with the move. It’s going to be amazing living in Stellenbosch!

    Great resolutions. Being kinder to everyone makes such a difference. And being kinder to nature is also totally on my list for this year. Our beautiful world is taking so much strain, so every bit helps. x

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    1. Malherbe Liezel January 13, 2018 at 1:43 pm

      I agree, we can all do our bit. I am really excited about this year, I think it’s going to be a goodie!

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  2. Erika January 13, 2018 at 4:49 am

    I’m a Jo’burg girl and understand fully what you mean about not having enough hours in a day. This year I’m going to take #onedayatatime and keep a gratitude journal. Check out bullet journaling – I’m already hooked.

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    1. Malherbe Liezel January 13, 2018 at 1:42 pm

      Bullet journaling sounds brilliant! Thanks for the recommendation!

      Reply

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