This might come as a big shock to some, but there is no magical adult awakening that happens at a set point in your life. Mentally, most people don’t feel any different in their 60’s than they did in their 20’s.
Luckily for us, adulthood has a habit of popping up and slapping you in the face on a daily basis.
If the following realisations resonate with you then it’s probably time to start acting like an adult, or at least getting real good at faking it:
1. Realising some friends are seasonal
You can’t keep all your friends for the rest of your life. Some friends are only meant for a certain time in your life, while the lucky few will stick with you for longer. Times change and so do you, so don’t fight it and just find happiness in the good memories and times you had with them.
2. Realising you ain’t getting any younger, kid
That bucket list is only growing and those days are ticking by. It’s a terrible thing to always wait until you’re ready, because there is no such thing as ready. So get off your ass and stop procrastinating.
3. Realising what type of people you want to surround yourself with
You’re allowed to leave any place, situation or person that makes you feel sad or bad.
So surround yourself with people who make you the best you, but know how to deal with those that don’t. Some people are just assholes and you can’t escape them.
4. Realising you are your own enemy
Stuck in a crappy job? Can’t lose that weight? Want to go overseas? You’re old enough to make decisions on your own, decisions that will determine how you live your life and how you feel while living it. No one else can make those life decisions for you. Yes, people will judge you and your parents will give their two cents, but the execution part is all on you, sweetheart.
5. Realising that some weekends will have to be spent on admin
This one sucks big time. After a week of working, all you want to do is relax on the weekends. But sometimes you need to take a weekend to do all the shitty admin stuff in overcrowded places and spend money on things you don’t want to but need to. This is a slap of adulthood at its finest.
6. Realising death is part of life
Growing older means your grandparents and parents also grow older, you start to realise that death is part of life, sometimes it’s unfair, but there is nothing you can do about it . So don’t take any time with loved ones for granted, you will never regret telling them how much you love them when they’re gone, only the times you didn’t.
7. Any form of ID photo will never look good
This is self explanatory. So stop giving excuses for crappy ID photos. This also counts for passports, Student ID cards and driver’s licenses.
8. That cheese and toilet paper is expensive
Again. Self-explanatory. But they are necessary evils.
9. Realising travelling overseas ain’t always the solution to growth
Become friends with people who aren’t your age. Hang out with people whose first language isn’t the same as yours. Get to know someone who doesn’t come from you social class. This is how you see the world. This is how you grow.
10. Realising that emotions should be controlled
“Control your emotions” doesn’t mean “avoid your emotions”. Feel your shit, understand your shit, but don’t lose your shit. Nobody wants a shitstorm.
11. Realising that bod will never be the same
Alcohol tolerance, junk food tolerance and a fast metabolism is basically non-existent as you grow older. If your hangover lasts two days and a Maccy D’s burger makes your love handles extra lovable, then you know you’ve reached the tipping point. Take care of yourself and learn how to love your ever-changing body.
This is Tessa, thank you for listening to my TED talk.