With the “new year, new me” BS that’s haunting me on social media, I came across a study on how many people actually follow through and accomplish their New Year’s resolutions, and the statistics are rather grim. Less than 25% of people actually stay committed to their resolutions after just 30 days and only 8% accomplish them. Wow, it takes me more than 8% of my time and energy to draw up my New Year’s Resolutions and now you are telling me that I won’t even accomplish it? Ain’t nobody got time for that.
So in the last few days of 2019, I didn’t exactly have a “new year, new me” skip in my step and just went on as if 2020 wasn’t looming around the corner. This festive season, I went on a road trip with my best mates. We started in PE and travelled through Jeffreys, Plettenberg Bay, Knysna, Mossel Bay, and beyond. By the 31st of December we reached Cape Town. I rang in the New Year at the Secrets Of Summer New Year’s Eve Festival in Observatory. I can’t remember much of the moment the clock struck 12. Phones got stolen, friends cried and I lost my best mate for a few seconds to a Brandy and Coke.
Then it was January 1st and all of a sudden I recalled a conversation I had with my best mate. He told me to stop living in the past. With that in mind, and no New Year’s kiss, a new day stretched out in front of me. I stood in the crowd, closed my eyes and completed the one New Year’s resolution I had prepared: Letting go.
This resolution was perfectly set up so that this brand of goal-setting, that seems to always disappoint over the course of a few months, would be accomplished before the sun greeted me in the morning.
My best mate, back from the Brandy and Coke hole he was in, came back to see me standing alone. He asked me what I was up to and all I told him was: “I’m leaving everything behind.” Then I opened my eyes and went on to celebrate the new year with the people I adore the most.
But what is it that I’m letting go of?
- I’m letting go of friends that are only minor characters of a small chapter in my story.
- I’m saying goodbye to past relationships and lovers.
- I’m done explaining and justifying my life decisions to people that only want to give me their own 2 cents.
- I’m blowing a kiss goodbye to my insecurities, trust issues and negative energy.
- I’m saying cheers to the past.
The bigger goal here is to be the best version of myself. Isn’t that what everyone is wishing for and working towards anyway? I did a little soul searching, this small resolution has a deeper reason, which borrows from the familiar idea that you should break down big goals into smaller ones. So that I can build up the nerve and confidence to be a kick-ass human being.
Letting go of the past is only a small step. And just by saying goodbye to that guy that’s “houseplanting” me or buying that dress that no one likes except for me, I’m connecting to deeper things about how I’d like to move around in 2020 – and in the world.