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Today marks the end of my Birthday Month (and if you haven’t entered all of my epic Birthday Giveaways, I suggest you do that NOW before it’s too late). Most people see 30 as this crippling milestone – the age when everything starts going to shit. Honestly, I am so excited about this new phase in my life. I feel more settled in myself, more confident in my own voice, and more sure of the things I believe in. I also feel that I have learned a truckload in the last decade, about myself, about other people and about life in general. And because I believe in the power of reflection, I decided to capture a few of my most profound life lessons.

  1. Slow down. You don’t always have to be busy, rushed and stressed out. Stop, breathe, take in the little moments.
  2. Wear sunscreen. 
  3. Comparison is the death of creativity. Stop comparing yourself and your work to others and find your own source of inspiration.
  4. Embrace your hair’s natural texture and learn to work with it.
  5. Shave with conditioner. 
  6. Work smarter, not harder. Consider the things you spend time on. Are the adding to your life?
  7. Say no to the things that don’t fit in your life so that you can say yes to the things that do.
  8. Wear pretty underwear. Even if no one sees it. You should love the way you look naked.
  9. If you’re pissed off for no reason, try eating something.  
  10. If you’re still pissed off, try getting some exercise. 
  11. Invest time in your friendships. Real, quality time. It’s your people that will carry you.
  12. Learn to love yourself. You cannot love others fully until you do.
  13. Spend time in nature. 
  14. Wax your bikini line. 
  15. Everyone has their own shit. So…
  16. Be kind, always.
  17. It is never fair to take your bad day out on somebody else. Not even if you’ve been standing in a queue for an hour at SARS in the full-blown February sun. It’s never okay to unpack on someone else.
  18. Get 8 hours of sleep. 
  19. Never go to bed with your makeup on. 
  20. Wear natural fabrics. 
  21. Wear 100% cotton underwear. Yeast infections are a real deal.
  22. Less is more. Buying more stuff will never make you happy, it will probably only make you poor.
  23. If you’re feeling anxious, try getting rid of clutter in your life. Donate half your closet, clear that junk drawer, clean up your desk.
  24. Practice gratitude on a daily basis, it will change your life.
  25. Finding your own voice is a constant challenge. Learn to hear it, learn to listen, and hold on for dear life.
  26. Never over-pluck your eyebrows. 
  27. Trust your gut. If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. (yes, it’s a stereotype for a reason).
  28. Pay attention to people. Put your phone away. Really listen. Hear what they are saying.
  29. Periods are not dirty. 
  30. Vulnerability is a sign of strength, not weakness. It is terrifying to open up to people but so worth it.

What would you add to the list?


I am a lifestyle blogger from Cape Town trying to find the best ways to spend my time, take care of my body and express myself. I am slightly obsessed with fragrances, sneakers, Jamie Oliver and Masterchef Australia. Oh, and I probably drink way too much wine.


  1. Beverley Ann Swanepoel Reply

    Haha I think you summed it all up nicely for us. Never be afraid to be in tour thirties, embrace life, laugh, àlways be happy and never underestimate yourself. I’m in my sixties now so I have to find what’s right for me now. I swore this year I’m taking no ones crap and going to do for me and hubby and stuff others. They sometimes just don’t care, I find this so true the older I get. Be you, love yourself and always do what makes YOU happy. Once again Hapoy Birthday and wishing you many many more happy years, loys of joy and surprises, lots of love Bev ❤

    • Malherbe Liezel Reply

      Thanks so much Beverley. And I love your first point! Never underestimate yourself! So true!

  2. Great points Liezel! You’ve mentioned gratitude and kindness, such important virtues. I just turned 40 and now more than ever I realise that time really flies so I treasure every moment I get to spend with my family. Life is precious. Happy 30! Best wishes🌷

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